Limping Along

It was … a weekend. Saturday Allyson competed in (and won! and placed 2nd!) a regatta; I helped co-host a babyshower that Eleanor babysat the littles at; I went to a memorial service for a beloved member of my job’s community; I picked up Jamie in DC and Pam in Baltimore and then we drove to PA for Sunday’s race. I was supposed to run the marathon with Pam, but … no. So Jamie and I walked the 7 miles and then waited for Pam. As we were expecting her (the 5 hour mark) I walked back to find her, found her, and ran with her like a quarter of a mile. She had found someone to run with — from the first mile (!) — another person named Elizabeth. So they were exhausted but in great spirits and still running. It was amazing.

I was so sad that I couldn’t do the marathon, so proud of her time, so exhausted when I finally got home after dropping Pam and Jamie off — and then Oliver needed help with 1,000,000 awesome things to prepare for college. He NEVER asks for my help, so we worked until 11:30. We’ll review it tonight.

I want to swear to do this actual marathon next year (Pam said I inadvertently found “the easiest marathon in the United States (!!).” But my overuse meant I could literally barely lift my left foot. Plantar fasciitis doesn’t prevent me from running/walking but my goodness — when I overuse it (which I hadn’t before) — the agony! Even in the middle of the night last night I could barely walk to the bathroom — but this morning was fine. I mean, a 3 out of 10 on the pain scale, like it usually is in the morning, not nearly a 10 out of 10 like it was last night!

Anyway — I hope to get back to marathoning. And I am working this Friday and Saturday until 7 p.m., and I am just yearning for a weekend off …

Marathon Attempt Ends Prematurely …

I had so much fun (I really at least was surprised that I finished and was pretty strong up to mile 23) at my first marathon in December, 2023 that I signed up for another one, this time with friends. I started the training in December 2024, and things were going along fine. It was actually even fun to train “with” friends — we would just email each other — but it felt like we were working together!

Then, I had … an accident. A #2 one. But I was AT the toilet at home, or ALMOST, and so I kind of let it go — long run, almost made it, it’s fine. I had eaten grapes, which can cause my tummy trouble.

THEN, I had … another accident. A #2 one. In Houston, near my dad’s house, on a busy street, so … it just went down my leg. Allllll the way down. Terrible feeling, terrible two blocks to his house, terrible it was only 6 miles run … but I had eaten dad’s food, which isn’t my own, and I was stressed about the lawsuit I was in Houston for, so … I kept going.

Half marathon? Done. 15 mile run? Well, I finished 12, but didn’t stop because I had an accident — I just got too tired to continue. I was doing the other runs every week, keeping up, doing fine!

Then it was the day of the 18 mile run – I was determined to finish strong! I chose a new path — I HATE the boredom of paths I know too well, so I was really excited to be in my neighborhood/area but on a totally new-to-me-running street. I stopped to go to the bathroom! I stopped to buy water! I saw a friend and thought about stopping to say hello but texted her later instead. It was AWESOME. I was at mile 12 or so .. oh, I needed to go to the bathroom. Oh, there was a McDonald’s right there — perfect!

Nope. You know the ending — busy street, next to McDonalds, ALLLLLLL down my legs. I had to call my husband to pick me up then slide into his backset on my stomach so I wouldn’t … mar the car. It was genuinely disgusting and totally discouraging. I called my friends and told the marathon runner I just … couldn’t keep doing this (what would I actually do if this happened during the marathon?!). I called the 7 miler and she said we could just walk it together — an excellent idea! A friend suggested diapers but OH the chafing — and still, what would I do with a full diaper in the middle of a marathon?!

So, it’s this coming weekend. I have dreams that I will just start running and finish my second marathon! But in reality, I will walk 7 miles and be happy to support my awesome friend doing her first marathon. I went to the doctor and there is no problem — just — bodies sometimes do this.

Sad. But okay!

Me on my triumphant marathon day.
I walked the last 3 miles but I finished!! Just at 6 hours!

Crawling while Running

When I turned 49, I knew I would have to do something big before my 50th birthday. I decided it would be a marathon — my dad did a marathon when he was 40, and I admired that. Of course, my dad was a runner and had run for years, but — whatever. I walk! I can run. A friend, Pam, had also, separately, started running, and she recommended an app, the Nike Run Club (also: free!). So, reluctantly (I always said I hated to run); I started to train.

I trained for a few months, then my shin started hurting so I stopped. I went to a physical therapist who said, in summary, ‘you’re fine, keep training.’ So in August I started training again. I met a board member at my job who recommended a marathon on Dec. 2, in Rehoboth, because it wasn’t too crowded (I was hoping to just run by myself, but bathrooms and water would have been a problem) and it was VERY flat. I .. signed up. It was actually the very weekend that my training finished — which I hadn’t know when I started training! Anyway, I did it — just 6:00 hours, and I walked the last three miles.

One guy on the run part, before I started walking around mile 23, said, “is this your first marathon? You are like a metronome, just exactly keeping the same time!” It was the BEST compliment and I pull it out regularly.

I actually did kind of like running — the places you see, getting their on your own two feet, the strength you gain, etc. But! I was sad I walked the last 3 miles. So! I signed up for ANOTHER marathon, this one in Jim Thorpe, Pa., and asked some friends to run it too (at their own paces, but just good to know they are there). One of the Nike Run Club runs was an ultramarathoner who said even as your body says ‘you can’t keep going’ you have to trick your body and say ‘yes I can.” Even if you BELIEVE you can’t — you have to say you can and do it.

I loved that run and I love that advice. So, two and a half weeks ago I started training again. And now I’m up to 10k on Saturday (last) and 7 miles on Saturday (next). And I do feel like walking, or stopping, and just like that lady said, I say, “nope, I’m able to and I can.” And so far at least (these are very short distances, comparatively!) she’s right — I can.

That’s what I’m trying to teach myself, too — that I can do things that I have always thought I couldn’t do.